Wednesday, May 18, 2011

Response: Arnold Schwarzenegger's Love Child

So the news broke yesterday and everyone including myself was surprised when former California Gov. Arnold Schwarzenegger and his wife, Maria Shriver, announced their separation last week after 25 years of marriage. It seems to come out of nowhere, But as the LA Times has revealed today, there’s a good explanation for it. The former governor had finally admitted to his soon to be ex-wife that he has fathered a child outside of their marriage (thank goodness it was not Pres. Obama). The child, who is now 10 years old was born to one of his staffers. Now how has been able to keep thus from his wife for so long has me dumbfounded. Now I'm really interested to see the fallout from this scandal. There are lot of things that the public can and will forgive, but i don't think cheating on your wife and fathering a child is one of them. Certainly not when it's such a high profile figure as Maria Shriver. I feel bad for the family and especially for the children that have to endure all this. I am curious how the media is going to cover this story though. The media has been very critical of athletes and entertainers fathering children outside of their marriage or cheating on their wives. Look at how long the Kobe Bryant story held the attention of the public. Now think about other politicians who have had sex scandals in recent years. Former President Bill Clinton, Former Gov. Jim McGreevey, Eliot Spitzer, and former Mayor Kwame Kilpatrick. I think that politicians are public figures that should be held to the same standard as any other person including celebrities. It does set a terrible example to the youth about the lack of faithfulness in today's marriage. I watched TV with my wife the other day it was a Law and Order: SVU Marathon one of our favorite shows. Each episode we watched shows some aspect of a unfaithful man that cheating on his wife or girlfriend. I have always said that women tend to be distrusting and suspicious of their men because they are surrounded with images or infidelity and cheating everyday. Pick up a magazine in you local grocery store, go to, or any other news network and I guarantee that this is some type of sex scandal as the top news story. (I know this breaks all type of man laws) But I'm beginning to understand why women feel that way. As men we do not want to lumped into the group of the untrusting and inappropriate. But the reality remains and it is constantly reinforced by people actions that many people in relationships are unfaithful. As men our society celebrates a huge ego and swagger you can smell coming through the door. So we adapt a me first mentality that will always find us in this very revealing predicament. What do you do to set yourself apart from the pact? I would love to divert some attention and use the age old argument that women cheat too, but they are better at not getting caught (had to throw that one in there). But this has nothing to do with women at all. As men, we have to make better decisions for ourselves and our families. We must conduct ourselves better if we are to truly assume the role as the head of our household. This is not so much about Arnold Schwarzenegger Celebrity and money are not excuses for compromising your values and integrity, if those where ever that night to begin with. Even though Arnold Schwarzenegger has played a terminator from the future, an undercover kindergarden cop teacher, and a do-gooder twin in the movies. In real life, he is another man that has embarrassed his family with true lies, went commando trying to be the last action hero.

Tuesday, May 10, 2011

Ladies, what does your partner do to make you feel special?

Either on a regular basis or on special occassions; what does your partner do to let you know you're appreciated or to make you feel special? If your mate doesn't do this, do you bring it to their attention?